Have you ever struggled to find your voice? Or if you choose to speak up, it only gets lost in the roar of life? I certainly have. All of my life, I have advocated for others. From my non-profit work to those that I help train in the classroom, I was always the one who helped or supported others. It was mostly out of love and a desire to make a difference to others. And I loved every minute of it. Until I became empty. Like a glass of water that was emptied, I too ran out of water and energy. Here are five ways you can find your voice, refill your cup and keep your sanity.

1. Set Healthy Boundaries

Saying no is hard for someone who is always willing to say yes to help others. But remember if you say no to others, you are saying yes to yourself. If you don’t have boundaries, you will be like a ball rolling in the wilderness, never knowing when or how you will be stopped. By time you are stopped, you may find yourself overwhelmed, exhausted or sick.

2. Advocate for Yourself

It is always easier to advocate for others, because you are speaking on their behalf. It is selfless and kind. However, when you speak for yourself, it may feel wrong or selfish even. It takes courage to speak up or speak out. There may be fear, uncertainty or reparisal. But if you don’t do it, nothing will change.

3. Own your future

Perhaps like me, you hope that others may see your potential and help you grow. Reality is, unless you have a mentor or a really good friend or family member, everyone is just busy trying to figure their own path. Only you are responsible for your own growth. Whether you walk the path of growth or staying exactly where you are, you are responsible for that decision. No-one else.

4. Get Help

If you think you can take on the world alone, go for it. I used to think that way, in the early days when I had just freshly graduated from university. I always took pride in doing everything myself, making my own money and greatly valued my independence. When it became too much, I realized I had to speak up and ask for help. Whether it is a personal or professional issue, seek help. It could be a family member, friend, mentor or your supervisor. Not only will they listen, they may be in a position of power to help amplify your voice and concerns. It could also be the dishwasher (check out The Day I discovered the dishwasher). Either way, there is no shame to ask for help or use tools to make your life easier and voice louder.

“It’s not how good you are now; it’s how good you’re going to be that really matters,” Gawande says.

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5. Self Care

The best way to give respect to yourself is self care. It looks different for everyone. It could be as simple as having a cup of coffee in silence or carving time for fitness. Whatever brings you joy and a place of peace, prioritize it. Your mind will thank you for it.

Final Words

It takes courage to put yourself first and to voice whatever needs to be heard. It be scary and tedious but never forget that that your voice does matter and that you deserve to be heard.

What are some ways you have made sure your voice is heard?

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